phanerons-end said: Why does it hurt so much when my significant other tells me he doesn't feel like I love him enough or worse, at all? We both struggle with anxiety and depression. We are each essentially a mirror image, mentally and emotionally. So despite knowing how he feels, why can't I ever not be wounded when he says "You don't really love me"?
No one else can presume to know another’s heart, especially before coming to know their own.
You are the best judge of whether or not you love someone, not that person.
We think that if someone loves us, we will feel it. Sometimes we will, sometimes we wont. It has nothing to do with the quality or reality of that love. It has to do with our capacity to love.
Being out of touch with your heart and accusing someone else of not loving you is like unknowingly keeping your eyes closed and accusing the sun of no longer shining.
What’s there for you to do about it? Open your eyes to what is there. Try not to take the stories you tell yourself and each other too seriously.
Take up tonglen meditation. That will definitely help. I’d highly recommend the book The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. It is wonderful guidance for those struggling with anxiety and depression.
Namaste my friend. Much love :)
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